Marc's Reflection on Aikido & True Play

Noticing Horizontal

September 15, 2011 · No Comments

HOW OFTEN DO I ATTEMPT TO FEEL SAFE
BY ABANDONING MYSELF
BY ALIGNING WITH OTHERS
IN ORDER TO PLEASE, FOLLOW OR RESIST;

RATHER THAN STANDING ON MY OWN FEET
AND MOVING WITH THE OTHER PERSON(S)?

WHAT ARE THE CLUES
THAT LET ME KNOW
THIS HORIZONTAL RELATING IS HAPPENING?

The first step is to begin to notice how it feels in my body to abandon vertical.

Feel how I look away from myself when I make a horizontal move.

One can feel / sense the risk, the dependence, the off balance, the instability of the relationship in the moment.

Horizontal is Buber’s I–It. Vertical is I–Thou or I–I.

Whenever the other is felt to be more or less than I am–that is a clue.

When they are felt to be less, that is Buber’s I-It.

When I am felt to be less, I am internalizing Buber’s instrumental approach with “myself”.

Kind of an It-It, where no one is being respected, where there is no self respect, only violence.

Whenever I become anxious in the presence of another–that is a clue that I am going horizontal.

Whenever there is judging involved, that is a clue that I have abandoned vertical for horizontal.

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