Marc's Reflection on Aikido & True Play

freedom AND solidartiy

December 16th, 2013 · No Comments

By “AND” I mean intersection of these two foundational stances–situations where both freedom and solidarity support each other

Freedom + Solidarity = Participation

Freedom – Solidarity = Isolation alternating with Domination

When one’s state of being is in a sympathetic, adrenergic, stress-based mode–fight, flight, freeze–then we end up with isolation, power over AND subjugation or blind following.

When the state of being is in a parasympathetic, receptive, digestive, integrative, open mode–broaden and build–then we experience flow AND connection.

The difference in these two “ANDs” is the difference between war and peace.

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Balance and breath

November 23rd, 2013 · No Comments

Breath and balance

are twins

who like playing together

in harmony

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Playfulness as the driver of Organizational Flourishing

March 3rd, 2012 · No Comments

Curiosity AND non-violence (playfulness)

are the simple rules (actually practices)

for emergence of happier

complex adaptive systems:

Friends

Families

Neighborhoods

Work Organizations

Communities

Cities

States

Nations

World

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the big picture

September 18th, 2011 · No Comments

HELD
back
away
against

RESISTANCE, TWISTING, EFFORT, STRAINING
against
away

MOVEMENT FLOW TURNING
toward
with
as spirals

CARE
precision
focus
attraction
choice

BEING with
SENSING with
ORGANIZING with

NON-VIOLENCE

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Camel, Lion, and Child

June 4th, 2011 · No Comments

Per Bob Duhnam:

Nietzsche, an important philosopher of the continental and existential traditions, saw power as the capacity for creation, which often requires the capacity for destruction as well. In order to be someone who can tolerate and produce both creation and destruction, he said we have to overcome “the spirit of heaviness” that binds us to existing ways of being, that keep us unwilling to alter ourselves and leap into possibilities.

He portrays power with three images. Heaviness is portrayed by two images of power, the image of the beast of burden illustrated by the camel, and the image of the beast of prey illustrated by the lion. The camel is characterized by its resistance, its ability to carry others on its back, and its capacity to absorb adversity. We all need the power of the camel at certain times. The lion represents one who rebels, who asserts its own power in the face of others, and who declares the inviolability of its territory. We must also be lions at certain times.

The third image is the image of the child, who illustrates the power of the innocence of play, of the absence of heaviness. The child who builds castles in the sand, sees them destroyed by the waves, and then builds them again. To Neitzsche the power of the child, the power of play, is the superior form of power.
(This discussion is based on one in the book “The Ontology of Language” by Rafael Echeverria, available only in Spanish.)

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Play as Supporting vs. Holding

June 3rd, 2011 · No Comments

The ground (and more)

Supports me

Without demands

I can let go of holding myself

Up

Back

Apart

Away

Against

Together

Onto

In control

And just play in the…

Moment

Place

Connecting…

To self

Other

Space

Flow

Mood

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Play with

March 5th, 2011 · No Comments

Perfection is not playful

It is wrought in private places

It is a magician’s act of deception (of self and a few uninitiated others)

Play is destroyed by knowing, planning, technique or effort.

Play is not perfect (except in spirit)

It is open (exposed)

It flows from physical gratitude into respect and connection

Gratitude for the attraction between us and the earth

Gratitude for the certainty of center (hara)

Gratitude for the possibility of suppleness and extension

Respect for ones past and future

Respect for the possibilities of now–this moment, the only moment

Connection with self and all of self’s contradictions

Connection with this space,

particularly this ground, through balance;

and this space through extension

And connection with the other(s)

Playfully, with no inclination toward perfection

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Play

February 26th, 2011 · No Comments

Only occurs when vertical

Moving with
Self &
Others

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Caring

February 26th, 2011 · No Comments

Exists only when inclined toward
Self
Others

Human interest only exists when inclined toward
Self
Others

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Presence for Solutions

February 19th, 2011 · No Comments

“Problem solving”

Effort
or
Acceptance, Openness, Curiosity, Playfulness

Violence against
or
Conversations with

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3D and Timeless

February 19th, 2011 · No Comments

The Horizontal relationship to fear is
2D,
time constrained (worried about the future, based on accumulated fears from the past) and
of limited choice

The Vertical relationship to True Play is
3D,
timeless (in the present moment–the only time that exists) and
choice full

(Marc, you can turn your hips, bend your knees, fall, roll–really. Practice)

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From reaction to response

February 13th, 2011 · No Comments

History: Startle, withdraw, plan, … From anxiety with intellect.

Practice: Notice, accept, sense and respond center to center, I – I, with playfulness.

Even noticing the startle chain reaction, playfully.

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No negatives :)

February 13th, 2011 · No Comments

Turning toward,

Is the only creative way,

Forward

Expand self

To include,

Let, allow.

Say “yes”.

To Awareness

To Flow

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Ensemble

January 29th, 2011 · No Comments

Accept one’s self

Accept others through extension to sameness

Embrace the sacred earth, air, body–move as one

Move with extension directly into purpose and care

With another’s purpose and care

Playfully

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Is it play?

January 22nd, 2011 · No Comments

If my intention and actions are not playful, then what are they?

Hurried?
Forceful?
Pushy?
Anxious?
Disconnected?
Frightening?

Isn’t TRUE PLAY the best way to

experience the world,
get things done,
connect with others?

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True play

December 31st, 2010 · No Comments

This is a big one. I will not say much here, yet.

It is Sensei Bert Bennett’s whole view.

It shows up as joyful, engaged, flowing, physically dynamic learning.

It is this felt sense of true playfulness which is so attractive and enticing about this dojo.

The moments of connection, the learning in these moments.

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Practice and positive psychology

December 14th, 2010 · No Comments

People do flourish when their experienced ratio of positive affect to negative affect is 4 to 1 or more.

One does not have to change others or the world to change one’s own affective experience. One can develop personal practices of acceptance which shift from fear into joy and true play.

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“Bad” thoughts and “bad” behaviors

December 12th, 2010 · No Comments

Assigning negative labels and then attacking one’s own unloved behaviors–my normal approach–is perfectly counter productive.

A different and simpler way is to accept it, stay with it, see what it does when felt but not threatened. Surprisingly, something nice and playful happens.

The power of the habitual reaction lessens, without effort; precisely because there is no effort, only openness and attention.

Another aikido surprise.

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Early insights from the dojo

November 28th, 2010 · No Comments

Calm down = Breath (deep diaphragmatic breathing practice)
Get big = Extend
Move forward = Play (5Ps)

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