Marc's Reflection on Aikido & True Play

Respect and Community Action

August 1st, 2012 · No Comments

Without violence

Without pushing or pulling

One envisions an attractive common future (possibility)

And invites others to join together

to co-create that future.

I see no other way for non-violent action.

The skill for this way of being is conversational human connection

–Which is itself life giving.

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Why organizations should encourage training

March 4th, 2012 · No Comments

Aikido training develops

Respect in action (non-violence, curiosity, playfulness)

Leaders who do not instill fear

Employees who don’t amplify the fear they find in others

Only under these conditions will curiosity and innovation flourish

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The feeling of innovation

March 3rd, 2012 · No Comments

What is the feeling of innovation?

Letting the outside in

Being the outside

Openness–riskless undefended openness

Relaxation

Smiling, chuckling, even laughing

Together–absent any violence, delicately respectful.

 

 

What is the feeling of rigid control?

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The Trap of Hubris

February 12th, 2012 · No Comments

Knowing is a dead end.

Telling is the violent death of relationship.

Respecting individual sovereignty and connecting from there

is the way around this trap.

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Noticing Horizontal

September 15th, 2011 · No Comments

HOW OFTEN DO I ATTEMPT TO FEEL SAFE
BY ABANDONING MYSELF
BY ALIGNING WITH OTHERS
IN ORDER TO PLEASE, FOLLOW OR RESIST;

RATHER THAN STANDING ON MY OWN FEET
AND MOVING WITH THE OTHER PERSON(S)?

WHAT ARE THE CLUES
THAT LET ME KNOW
THIS HORIZONTAL RELATING IS HAPPENING?

The first step is to begin to notice how it feels in my body to abandon vertical.

Feel how I look away from myself when I make a horizontal move.

One can feel / sense the risk, the dependence, the off balance, the instability of the relationship in the moment.

Horizontal is Buber’s I–It. Vertical is I–Thou or I–I.

Whenever the other is felt to be more or less than I am–that is a clue.

When they are felt to be less, that is Buber’s I-It.

When I am felt to be less, I am internalizing Buber’s instrumental approach with “myself”.

Kind of an It-It, where no one is being respected, where there is no self respect, only violence.

Whenever I become anxious in the presence of another–that is a clue that I am going horizontal.

Whenever there is judging involved, that is a clue that I have abandoned vertical for horizontal.

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Play with

March 5th, 2011 · No Comments

Perfection is not playful

It is wrought in private places

It is a magician’s act of deception (of self and a few uninitiated others)

Play is destroyed by knowing, planning, technique or effort.

Play is not perfect (except in spirit)

It is open (exposed)

It flows from physical gratitude into respect and connection

Gratitude for the attraction between us and the earth

Gratitude for the certainty of center (hara)

Gratitude for the possibility of suppleness and extension

Respect for ones past and future

Respect for the possibilities of now–this moment, the only moment

Connection with self and all of self’s contradictions

Connection with this space,

particularly this ground, through balance;

and this space through extension

And connection with the other(s)

Playfully, with no inclination toward perfection

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Gratitidue and Respect or Selfish Disrespect

February 19th, 2011 · No Comments

That’s the choice!

Allegiance to

–the present or the past?

Allegiance to

–Touching / Connection or Withdrawal / Violence?

Allegiance to

–Practice or Pain

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Respect

January 7th, 2011 · No Comments

Not pushing, not pulling, not trying to dominate nor avoid. Knowing one another’s cares and moving with them, not against, not away from, but together. Connecting and reconnecting.

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