Marc's Reflection on Aikido & True Play

The Trap of Hubris

February 12th, 2012 · No Comments

Knowing is a dead end.

Telling is the violent death of relationship.

Respecting individual sovereignty and connecting from there

is the way around this trap.

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Noticing Horizontal

September 15th, 2011 · No Comments

HOW OFTEN DO I ATTEMPT TO FEEL SAFE
BY ABANDONING MYSELF
BY ALIGNING WITH OTHERS
IN ORDER TO PLEASE, FOLLOW OR RESIST;

RATHER THAN STANDING ON MY OWN FEET
AND MOVING WITH THE OTHER PERSON(S)?

WHAT ARE THE CLUES
THAT LET ME KNOW
THIS HORIZONTAL RELATING IS HAPPENING?

The first step is to begin to notice how it feels in my body to abandon vertical.

Feel how I look away from myself when I make a horizontal move.

One can feel / sense the risk, the dependence, the off balance, the instability of the relationship in the moment.

Horizontal is Buber’s I–It. Vertical is I–Thou or I–I.

Whenever the other is felt to be more or less than I am–that is a clue.

When they are felt to be less, that is Buber’s I-It.

When I am felt to be less, I am internalizing Buber’s instrumental approach with “myself”.

Kind of an It-It, where no one is being respected, where there is no self respect, only violence.

Whenever I become anxious in the presence of another–that is a clue that I am going horizontal.

Whenever there is judging involved, that is a clue that I have abandoned vertical for horizontal.

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Reaching in

April 2nd, 2011 · No Comments

is not connection;

is off balance.

Connect with maximum freedom on all sides

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Violence

February 26th, 2011 · No Comments

Develop a bias against violence
Lean away from self violence
Lean toward presence and connection
With self and others

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Humiliation

February 20th, 2011 · No Comments

Shame

Blinding shame

Fight or flight

Or…

Stay with it, turn toward it, let it dissolve itself through insight

Ever how slowly and non-violently

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Presence for Solutions

February 19th, 2011 · No Comments

“Problem solving”

Effort
or
Acceptance, Openness, Curiosity, Playfulness

Violence against
or
Conversations with

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